the humanization of your parents is a natural part of growing up. the scariest part is as you start to see the good, the bad, and the ugly, you realize all of that lives within you too. i am most similar to my dad and simultaneously get my best and most difficult qualities from him. i wouldn’t change a thing because he is brilliant and wonderful. although, i maybe would’ve liked a little more patience and kindness from my mom. regardless, i am who i am. and our parents aren’t superheroes. they are human beings wearing capes doing their best.
i saw a home video at my grandma’s house of my dad as a child on a family trip to portugal. it planted the seed for this song. i’ll let the lyrics do the rest.
portugal
i don't wanna love you
the way my mother does
blind and all excusing
what you're more than in control of
but i don't wanna hate you
for something that you've done
cause one day i might lose it
and i know it's cause
we're cut from the same cloth
but i hate all of my clothes
gave me all of your problems
so they ain’t even my own
saw that video from portugal
seemed like you were happier
so i know it's possible
you'd sit there in the driveway
when i was seventeen
at the end of a long day
with the engine still running
i'd bust your balls for it but
now im doing the same thing
it's just the only place
where i can hear myself think
we're cut from the same cloth
but i hate all of my clothes
gave me all of your problems
yet they still feel so unknown
saw that video from portugal
seemed like you were down to earth
so i know it's possible
you spend all your time
dreaming about the road
but every time u get out in the world
u just realize you like it better alone
maybe that's why nowhere feels like home
we're cut from the same cloth
saw that video from portugal
seemed like you were happier
so i know it's possible